“Only when you are aware of the uniqueness of everyone’s individual body will you begin to have a sense of your own self-worth.” ~ Ma Jian
Have you ever questioned yourself about yourself? Have ever looked to other people for guidance and answers to solve your problems? Have you ever just questioned your own self-worth?
This goes for both men & women. We all stuck within the identity of trying to find ourselves and believing in who we are. Every single day, society has us questioning who we are. Where are the ones the support internal beauty that beams to the outside?
As a young working woman and professional, growing up in an African household, raised under African cultural beliefs and values and being raised in America by African parents. You are really never taught how to take pride in yourself and love you. Self-worth, self-beauty and self-confidence are talked about, but not frequently or the stature that it should be. But, you are never challenged to love you from the inside out. You are geared to please others and take in others opinions versus your own. But that goes for those who never taught there children these things. Because some parents in my community have. What about the ones who have not? Where do those individuals stand within this topic? And is there a fix?
I ask these questions to make you think, assess yourself and see what is really going on around you because your closest friend or family member may never do that.
Have you noticed how the children of today’s society believe that looking like the next person or a famous star is life. Is this really what life is suppose to be?. Trying your hardest to look like the next Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Miguel or Kanye West. Were we put on this world to live like this? I don’t believe so. My life is my own. Once again, this does appeal to men as well as women. Have you questioned your self-worth yet?
By doing that, you have already lost YOU. And once you are gone, there is no coming back. YOU are gone and nowhere to be found. So then it poses the question. What can we do to find our own self-worth? Who am I to me? Forget about the world, forget about your friends, forget about others opinions and forget about what your parents say. Just take a real good look at you & say, “I love me & who I am becoming and as long as I love me, no one can change that”. Yes it will be hard at first to take a step away from those things in society that control our lives. But it will be beneficial in the long run.
As I write this, I am hoping that I am able to campaign the idea of knowing your self-worth. Maono ya Chini, doesn’t only mean low vision, but it is a way of life, expressing something that people deem as horrible as a beautiful thing that happens in special people’s lives.
Take the time to share this with others. Feel free to comment. Feel free to share your stories. Feel free to say, “I know my self-worth”. As people, let’s learn to love ourselves because that matters. As we continue to love ourselves we will be able to love others and stop learning how to hate, which is an emotion built on not knowing oneself.
Ladies and gentlemen, love thyself and thyself shall love you.